Domestic Violence- The Worst Nightmare For Your Child
It has been often said that ‘Child is the father of man’, since a person is the product of his habits and behaviors developed in the childhood.
As 4th of June has been marked by the UN as International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression, we hope that everybody realize that domestic abuse effects every member in our family and according to UN research around 3 million kids has been subjected to the effects of domestic violence on children, some way or the other.
Children who witness domestic violence often live with constant fear and so are mostly unable to nurture their bonds with friends and within their family.
Now what does the term “witness” means in reality?
Well to explain that- witnessing involves hearing or seeing or observing or just being aware of domestic violence act within their family.
According to India’s 3rd National Family Health Survey (NFHS-III), it has been observed and cited that more than 40% of Indian women has faced domestic violence at some point of time in their married life which has in turn effected the behavioral pattern in their kids.
Statistically Bihar (48.7%) which is followed by Rajasthan (46.3%), Madhya Pradesh (45.8%), Manipur (43.9%), Uttar Pradesh (42.4%), Tamil Nadu (41.9%), and West Bengal (40.3%) tops the list.
Children in such families who are exposed to battering becomes anxious and fearful. They remain always on guard, watching and anticipating when the next event will occur. As they never know who has triggered the abuse it is there often seen that they never feel safe at home. They remain ever-worried about themselves, their mother or their siblings.
It’s a matter of great concern to see that although children who suffer from domestic abuse, be it direct or psychological can look fine to the outside world, but deep within they remain in terrible pain.
Often they blame themselves for the abuse, thinking that if they have not done or said something, the abuse would not have occurred.
Some of the most common traits and symptoms of domestic violence on children in India and elsewhere in the globe are frequent stomach ache, headaches, bedwetting, sleep deprivation and loss of ability to concentrate. They are also seen to express rage, feel humiliation and embarrassment, being emotionally and psychologically abandoned in their struggle for survival.
Acts of domestic violence within the family makes these hapless children starve for attention, approval and affection.
Today on the day of International Day of Innocent Children Victims of Aggression let’s all of us take a firm resolve to protect children and provide for them, in accordance with their stages of development, these eight basic needs:
- Trust and Respect
- Emotional Security
- Physical Security
- Appropriate Discipline
- Encouragement and Support
- Show them how to take care of themselves
Do your part. Pay attention. Spread the word.